Sunday, June 18, 2023

"Willful Obedience" (My talk in Alma-June 11, 2023)

 "A father and his young son visited a local toy store.  While there, they came upon a bozo bop bag—you might not recognize it by its formal name, but it is the toy that is painted like a clown on an inflatable bag and when you knock it down, it will pop back up.  After his son had punched it a few times, the father asked- “Why do you think it pops back up?”  The son thought for a moment and then said, “I don’t know.  Maybe he is always standing up inside.” This story was shared in a conference talk by Elder Gary Sabin.  That concept of “standing up inside” struck me. I think it has several applications.  I like the visual-- Are you always “standing up inside”-- choosing the right and obeying the commandments as faithful sons and daughters of God?

Sister Melanie Rasband reminded the young adults during the 2022 Devotional with her husband that. “Our prophet is inviting each of us to be willing to stand out, step up more faithfully, and courageously step into our role as sons and daughters of God in these last days, to gather and build God’s kingdom on both sides of the veil and prepare for the return of the Son of God…”

That call is to all of us—young adults and us seniors, Primary children and youth and parents in the midst of family raising and career building. We need to learn how to be willing to stand out and step up and take our place in the army of God in preparing the earth for the Second Coming.  We can do that by being exact in obedience to our Heavenly Father’s commandments recorded in scriptures, given to us by our leaders, or in personal revelation from the Holy Ghost.

Sister Melanie Rasband shared this personal story: “I was taught a valuable lesson by a personal experience I … had with President Nelson a number of years ago when my husband served as the Senior President of the seven Presidents of the Seventy and President Nelson was the quorum President of the Twelve Apostles.

We were at an annual mission leadership seminar in Provo, Utah. I happened to come late to a meeting focused on counseling the mission presidents’ wives. The room was full of our devoted sisters. I stepped in near the back of the room, looking for a seat I could slip into. Straight up the aisle from me, though, where I stood, my eye caught Elder Nelson on the stand.

He smiled. I smiled back, despite my embarrassment for being late.

Elder Nelson, though, held my gaze, and he took his finger and he pointed to a seat on the front row.

Sister Rasband continued: I kind of shrugged, not wanting to make a scene or in any way disrupt the meeting. And I indicated that maybe I could just take a seat right here by where I was standing. Elder Nelson smiled, and with his pointing finger he beckoned me to come forward and take the front-row seat with my name on it.

There was power in that pointing finger. (can you imagine what that might have felt like?)

She went on: “I smiled back, this time with a determined yet timid desire to do as he asked me to do. So I literally took a deep breath and walked the long walk to the seat awaiting me on the front row.

After the meeting, I bolted from my seat to catch Elder Nelson and ask his forgiveness as I feebly tried to repent for not responding to his request the first time.

Elder Nelson smiled and in loving forgiveness simply said,

“Thank you for being obedient.”

I’ve thought a lot about that simple experience and what it taught me about myself, about obedience and following our sustained and ordained leaders.

President Nelson’s request of me was a loving invitation to come forward and be where I was asked to be, to not just settle on a seat near the back but step up and be accountable for who I am and serve in a holier way.”

I loved watching her face as she told of this experience.  I could totally imagine her desire to find a seat in the back, to not disrupt the meeting—but then making a choice to follow the instructions of President Nelson—to be obedient.  It was a simple experience but impactful to her—why?  Because choosing to be obedient even in simple ways shows our desire to stand up inside—to choose God and Christ and to follow our leaders with faith and courage.

I have had my own “simple” experience that made me reflect on my own desire and commitment to be obedient—in this case, to a prompting from the Holy Ghost.  Years ago, we lived in Plano, Texas with our family of five kids.  As often was the case, Saturday night I realized we didn’t have enough milk to make it through Sunday, so I headed out to make a run to the local grocery store about 10 pm.  Frequently I would run into other ward members making a similar Saturday night grocery run—maybe that happens in Alma, too.  As I drove down the street which took me out of our neighbo1rhood, the prompting came that I should turn left and go to the grocery store further away.  Since turning right and going to the local store was quicker, I first started arguing with the prompting—I don’t know if you do things like that.  Why shouldn’t I go right?  Was there someone that I needed to talk to at the store to the left?  Would I get in an accident if I went to the right? And on and on the discussion went in my head.  The thought came that I should go right, so I could see why I shouldn’t go right—like prove the prompting!  How ridiculous is that?  However, as I approached the intersection, the thought came to me “What do I want to show the Lord about myself?  I want Him to know that I follow promptings.  I am obedient.” And then it was simple—I turned to the left and went to the grocery store farther away.  And no, I didn’t see anyone that I needed to talk to nor were there any accidents or robberies at the closer store. But again, that simple moment allowed me to identify for myself—once again that I choose to be obedient—exactly a.  And many times since then, that experience comes to mind when I start to hesitate in following a prompting.  I am not perfect at it at all, but I am grateful for that time that I choose to “stand up inside” and to obey the prompting.

As children, we are taught by our parents to obey rules—when to go to bed, to wash our hands before we eat, and to pick up our toys. School teachers and others also teach us rules—waiting in line, taking turns, and being kind. Some rules are easy for us, some are hard, but we practice, our parents and teachers correct, remind, and reteach us. And eventually, we generally learn. In most situations, parents and teachers love us and are trying to help us be a good human being and to function in the world we live in. 

It isn’t any different with our Heavenly Parents. Scriptures, promptings from the Holy Ghost, counsel and direction from our leaders all provide us the road map and warnings to help us navigate mortal life.  Like the traffic laws put in place to keep us safe and the traffic running smoothly, the commandments from all of these sources are in place for one reason—to help us safely return back to our Heavenly Father’s home.  They have a significant side benefit of making mortal life easier and more clear.

In our “modern world,” obedience has developed a negative connotation.  We are told to “find your own truth” “Do what feel right to you” and “be your own person.”  But we are not simply mortal beings—we all are sons and daughters of Heavenly Parents and we are here—not on a spring vacation where anything goes—but to gain experiences and to learn to become like our Elder Brother and our Heavenly Father. Learning to be willingly obedient to God’s commandments is part of that journey.

In John 14:15: Jesus taught “If ye love me, keep my commandments.”  It sounds simple and it is—if we keep our focus and the purpose of our obedience firmly on our Savior and Redeemer, Jesus Christ. 

As a child, we might obey our parents because we want to please them or to avoid a negative consequence. And as we learn the commandments of God we may obey them for the same reasons—to please others or to avoid a negative outcome.  That is not a bad place to start—there are blessings for obedience to God’s laws at that beginning level.  You may pay your tithing as an 8-year-old without a complete testimony of that commandment or even understanding of what it all means.  However, as you grow in your testimony, it is important that your discipleship changes and grows as well.  Instead of obeying to get rewards or avoid punishment, it needs to become centered fully on the Savior and our love of Him and our Heavenly Father.

Elder Bednar stated: “Obedience is the exercise of moral agency to learn about, understand, and live according to God’s commandments. Adherence to gospel truths and keeping the commandments are not confining constraints we must somehow suffer through during mortality.  Rather Heavenly Father’s commandments are liberating and enlivening.  Obedience to eternal laws is the ultimate source of true happiness.  Enduring joy is the precious fruit of willful obedience.”  I like that phrase “willful obedience.”

Elder Bednar commented:” Progressing to a higher and holier level of obedience is not simply a matter of more personal determination more persistence, and more will power, rather, it is accomplished through the strengthening power of the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ.”

President Ezra Taft Benson taught “When obedience ceases to be an irritant and becomes our quest, in that moment God will endow us with power.”

Nephi was a great example of a person quick to be obedient to commandments.  Many of us probably have used his words in 1 Nephi 3:7 as we have faced challenges in our lives-- “I will go and do the things which the Lord hath commanded, for I know that the Lord giveth no commandments to the children of men, save he prepare a way for them that they may accomplish the thing which he commandeth them.”

I love his follow up testimony in 1 Nephi 17:3: “And thus we see that the commandments of God must be fulfilled. And if it so be that the children of men keep the commandments of God he doth nourish them, and astrengthen them, and provide means whereby they can accomplish the thing which he has commanded them; wherefore, he did bprovide means for us while we did sojourn in the wilderness.”

Have you seen how God has nourished you, strengthen you, and provided the way to accomplish the thing—or the trial, the struggles, the calling, the assignments, and the list can go on—whatever you have to do?---Do you see how He has provided the means as you have sojourned in your wildernesses?  These are promises as you offer your willful obedience to the commandments of God, to following his leaders, and to listening to the promptings of the Holy Ghost.

In August of 2005, President Gordon B, Hinckley invited the members of the Church to read the Book of Mormon by the end of the year. I chose not to do that.  I had reasons—I had just finished the Book of Mormon a few months before, I was teaching Gospel Doctrine in my ward and focused on the Doctrine & Covenants, I was working part time, life was busy,, …. You recognize them as excuses.  Around me, I saw people following the counsel—in the dentist office’s, on airplanes, waiting in lines—I saw people usually with the small blue Book of Mormons reading. This was before we all carried our scriptures on our phones. As the end of the year approached, it became more pronounced, and they even had a small news story about the Book of Mormons being seen everywhere “around town” as Saints followed the invitation of our prophet. Nothing terrible happened to me because I didn’t accept that invitation—but I learned an important lesson—we miss out when ever we choose to not willing obey. I felt bad and even now remember “missing out” on a shared experience that many members of the Church had during the time of reading together in response to an invitation from a prophet.  I can’t undo that choice, but I can repent, learn from that experience, and keep moving forward.   I have read the Book of Mormon many times since then and still responded quickly to a similar invitation by President Nelson in 2018.

Like the clown bozo toy, I want to be found “standing up inside” and stepping forward to be willing obedient in following the commandments of God—in the scriptures, from our leaders, and  promptings from the Holy Ghost. Think about why you obey the commandments of God—or if you are not, start now to be more exact  and willful in your obedience.  Strive to grow in your joy at obeying the commandments of God.  I testify as we choose to obey the commandments of God because of our great love for Him and our Elder Brother, Jesus Christ—we will be nourished, strengthen, and provided means as we sojourn in our wildernesses of life and even in the good times.  We will be blessed with joy—the eternal joy- the precious fruit of willful obedience."

I ended with my testimony.

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